Socrates, on slander

When the debate is lost,
slander becomes the tool of the loser.

Admirably/dauntingly skilled WordPress blogger Joann Chateau published this Socrates’ quote a while ago [].

According to my life experiences, including research on frame-ups, it bears revision, at least for a modern day U.S.A.:

When the debate is lost,
slander becomes the tool of the loser,
which quite often lets him be an ersatz winner in a U.S. court of law

Despite the slanderous (or libelous) claims of my many foes over the years, there’s no such thing as adult onset birth defects. My birth defects were present at my premature birth; I haven’t had surgery to correct any of them.

I refer to myself as Wobbly because my limb lengths don’t match and my light sensitive¬† epilepsy is volatile. They’re just two of many flaws present at birth. I’ve a single kidney that has always liked to make stones, and every once in a while, try to klunk out. My bladder likes to make stones, too, courtesy of another defect. I’ve got leaky heart valves, thankfully not leaky enough to require surgery. And there’s much more.

At age 19, I only knew that my limbs were mismatched by an inch and that my tail bone was deformed. That’s when the lovely woman I’d thought was my birth mother died (DNA tests) of cancer at home, with me as her primary caregiver. I’d specifically asked mom if there was anything she wanted to tell me – we both knew she was dying – and all she said was “be happy.” Apparently she figured the locket she’d given me after one of her surgeries was all the additional information I needed. It holds a picture of my dad – who really is my dad (DNA tests) – and a picture of one of my three half sisters, mom’s only child from her first marriage, 14 years my senior. My insistence that it should be given to that sister was met with mom’s yet more adamant insistence that I should be its new owner, despite my (well known to her) lifelong preference for silver over gold, and despite the locket holding my sister’s picture instead of mine. Mom glared when I asked for an explanation. She instructed me to keep it, no matter what. I did. DNA tests say I’m very closely related to mom, the locket may say the rest.

My kidney tried to kill me just a couple of months after mom’s death. I hadn’t remembered that I’d been hospitalized for renal distress while quite young … and I didn’t remember on my own. The Henry Ford Hospital doctors read it off my chart to me. They also told me about my scoliosis, but unfortunately didn’t read the rest of the lengthy list of defects to me. Dad pretended complete ignorance of there being anything wrong with me (he’d had to take me to the hospital because I was too far gone to drive, and somehow knew which specialists I needed to see). His I-know-nothing ruse would have been believable if he’d afterwards treated me as something other than a domestic servant, as he’d been doing since mom’s illnesses and surgeries. All I ever remember dad saying about my birth was that I looked like a hairy hot dog or a scrawny baby monkey. My weight was healthy, 6 lbs, but I was 22″ tall, and covered with lanugo hair. [Belated correction: when my kidney tried to clunk out after mom died, dad couldn’t pretend any longer that my back wasn’t as screwed up as mom’s, and hired a housekeeper to come once a week, as he had for her, once I’d recovered and found a job. As with mom, there was only a housekeeper for the main residence, not his other houses and cabins, and the housekeeper at the main residence didn’t do laundry, windows or clean the family room – too much work for one day. Her name was Ms Ruth, and I adored her.]

At 19, I knew quite a bit about dad’s character flaws, and not just from his almost daily disappearing acts during mom’s rapid decline that made being her primary caregiver almost seem like house arrest.

My Social Security records should show more four or more years of work history, and three or more were from my first job at my father’s insurance agency. Dad had his bookkeeper deduct employment taxes from my wages, but directed her not to submit payment to Michigan or the federal government for them. The bookkeeper told me that what she was doing under his orders was wrong, and told me to fight him. But I trusted dad when he told me that the bookkeeper was mistaken, up until a close friend got a tax refund, and said I ought to file, too.

So I tried to file. The forms required a Social Security number, so I called S.S. to see what my number was. They told me I didn’t have one. I went to one of their offices, thinking if I was there in person, they’d try harder, and find it. There wasn’t one, of course. I successfully filed for the first time for 1967, using the new number I was issued and the pay stubs I received showing that deductions were taken from my gross incomes. It was the second lie I’d caught my employer/father in.

One of my cousin’s friends worked at the agency for a very short time. Although still in school, I was in charge of a good part of her training – I’d been working there for many summers, weekends and holidays. She complained about her low wages, which turned out to be much higher than mine … dad had told me not to discuss wages because mine might make other employees jealous, even though I deserved high wages for the quality/quantity of work I put out.

Dad’s dirty tricks escalated over the years, including many slanders, including under oath. It may very well be that one of his children was under a psychiatrist’s care all they while they were in high school, as he swore I was under oath during an unemployment hearing. But it certainly wasn’t me: my schedule was too damn tight. I could have used a psychiatrist, for sure. If your dad routinely steals from you and one of his many violent acts knocks you unconscious and splits your head open when you’re a toddler, you’re going to have issues. And PTSD. And I do. I see a specialist intermittently, most often when my advocacy for incarcerated innocents takes an unusually bizarre turn.

Dad’s “under a psychiatrist’s care” slander was unsuccessful, but most of his other slanders under oath were very successful. And they shouldn’t have been. Triers of fact should stick to facts, not what they “feel” about what a father would or wouldn’t do to his very own daughter.

Right now, there’s a very large tree resting atop my very small house, which likely means that at least one of the many jarring tornado phone alerts during Irma was legit.

It’ll slow down my activism for others and pursuit of justice for myself, for sure. But it won’t stop me. I’ve been fighting slanderers, libelers, thieves and/or rogue public servants for fifty years. It was never my job, but it was always my responsibility … I’m an American, and obliged by birth to fight tyranny, including our wholly dysfunctional justice system – and the other two branches of government that ignore the dysfunction. If you’re an American, you are obliged to fight tyranny, too.

One can be happy while fighting. There’s nothing funnier than officers, prosecutors, judges, politicians, reporters, etc., who still take themselves seriously despite careers built on slandering and libeling and otherwise harming others for fun and profit … like still-doing-nothing-for-no-one-other-than-herself Hillary Clinton, and her incredible verbal assaults on Bernie Sanders. Funny as hell.

Less funny is how this judge “feels” about premeditated murder (by cop):

But if this judge is anything like Brevard County, Florida frame-up specialist prosecutor/Judge John Dean Moxley, a lot of the other stuff he’s said, done and “felt” is indeed laughable.

Even the very large tree atop my very small house will be funny someday. Be happy.

About Susan Chandler

Now-disabled interior/exterior designer dragged into battling conviction corruption from its periphery in a third personal battle with civil public corruption.
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10 Responses to Socrates, on slander

  1. You are an incredibly strong woman, Susan. Wishing you answers, solutions, and much success in you fight for the right.


  2. You are a survivor. You know life is a journey of strife, tribulations and joy. It has obviously made you a compassionate, intelligent….resilient woman, who can take on all of life’s challenges.

    I hope you have filed for assistance to rebuild…. May be your experience with your Dad’s insurance company will help you navigate that mire.Take care! My prayers are with you


    • Thanks for the uplifting words, but you’re way too kind, Honey. I drank ants twice this morning from forgetting to check my water glass, and made a heckuva mess by not closing my coffee maker completely before turning it on; figure even the ants have me beat on intelligence today. A search for needed paperwork paid off, and as soon as I can get some more coffee in me, I’ll be filing a claim. I’m mindful of those who lost everything and wouldn’t mind having a moldy roof over their heads in the least … sure hope FEMA is doing worst-first claims management. Again, thank you for your encouragement, and the praise I hope to earn – soon.

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      • You are welcome.
        I laughed at your drinking ant with your coffee. It is okay they are high in protein LOL. Keep me updated on how you are doing. Things will get better. As you already know it will require a lot of work and determination to get assistance. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t allow yourself times to melt down to deal with the frustration, heart break and anger. Then pick yourself and start the work all over again. I am sure you can gather that I have been had my share of hard times. Keep moving forward. take care


      • Thank you, Honey. I’m still ingesting protein from failing to check my beverages before sipping. The tree is still atop the house. The patches from the punctures seem to be holding, and the mold is almost under control in the kitchen, so it’s time to talk myself into tacking the small bedroom. I’m trying to figure out how to get two honey bee colonies relocated before any FEMA inspectors or work crews arrive. They’re not in the tree, they’re squatters – one colony in the attic, another in the detached utility room. If I was physically able to tend them, I’d just buy the cheapest hives I could and keep them forever … at the BACK of the lot. I hope that your hard times were not just hard, but ridiculously entertaining, like mine typically are. Best to you!

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      • You are still in my thoughts and prayers. Ask the FEMA guys if they know any one who has lost their bees. Maybe you can reunited them with bee keepers. LOL

        I hope having FEMA inspectors at you home is a positive step getting you the federal assistance to rebuild your home.

        it is important to keep your sense of humor. We need laughter and joy just as much as a good cry to find the strength to move forward.


  3. Thanks so much, Honey. Haven’t heard from FEMA re claim, so muddling through w/o their input and fearing an “X” – they could mark the house for demolition. Tree may be off the house yet today; will be wonderful to stop thinking about potential collapse. Had bee keeper search success – a friend will come out of retirement to help me move them at a friend’n’family price, if it turns out I have a month to spare for the process … they may end up with them at the back of my yard after all. It will be very funny if the bees end up with homes, and I don’t. Not now, of course, but years from now. Again, thank you for thinking of me.


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